Parents in the NICU can feel pretty helpless, so I spend a big part of my day helping them feel empowered. One way parents can be useful is to massage their baby. You wouldn’t think that a premature infant in an isolette and on oxygen would love a massage, but they do. Massage has been proven to increase bone mineralization, weight gain, deep sleep, improve muscle tone, and even decrease length of hospital stays. It has also been shown to improve scores on cognitive evaluations in later childhood. Tiffany Field is the researcher that I think has done the best, and most accessible work in this area. Massage is great for all babies: premature and full term.
Preemies can’t tolerate a full massage routine that is designed for full-termers. If you have a premature infant in the NICU, I would definitely ask your nurse or occupational therapist for guidance before you try any of these techniques.
Lotions and Oils: Most infant massage therapists recommend vegetable grade oils. I like to use grape seed oil because it is not too greasy, has no odor, and absorbs well. The kind I use is:

Amount of pressure: Do not use light touch. Babies, especially preemies, do not like this. Light touch is actually alerting, not relaxing. Use gentle but firm pressure.
Before you start:
1. Read your baby’s cues. If she is stressed or irritable, best to try to calm her or wait until she is ready. A good quiet or active alert state is best.
2. Prepare the environment: The best environment is quiet with dim lights. Lay your baby on a blanket or towel on the floor or on your bed. Face him or her.
3. Take some deep breaths yourself, and release the stress you have in your own body, then… ask your baby permission to massage him or her.
These are the massages that I find most of the babies respond positively to:
FACE:
a. Forehead: Start with both your thumbs in between the eyebrows, then move your thumbs out to the temples. Repeat 5x.
b. Jaw: Make small circles around the jaw.
c. Cheeks: Start with your thumbs at the jaw (TMJ), and then move them to your baby’s chin. Repeat 5x.
UPPER EXTREMITY:
a. Indian Milking: Support your baby’s wrist with one hand, then stroke the arm with the other, from the shoulder to wrist. Hold your hand in a “C” shape while stroking. Continue stroking, alternating hands. 5x/arm.
b. Swedish Milking: Same as Indian Milking, but go from wrist to shoulder. 5x/arm.
c. Squeeze and Twist: Using the “C” shape of your hands, squeeze and twist your baby’s arm, starting from the shoulders to the wrist. 5x/arm.
d. Finger roll: Gently open your baby’s hands using your thumb. Then squeeze each finger and gently pull on them.
CHEST:
a. Open book: Start with both of your hands at the center of your baby’s chest. Then move your hands out to the sides. Move your hands in the shape of a heart. 5x.
b. Butterfly: Start by cupping both sides of your baby’s chest with your hands. Using your right hand, stroke up to your baby’s right shoulder, cup the shoulder, gently pull down and bring your right hand back to its starting place. Then do the same with the left hand. Repeat the same motion, alternating hands rhythmically over your baby’s chest, in the shape of a butterfly.
STOMACH:
a. Water Wheel: Using the sides of your hands, make paddling strokes on your baby’s stomach, alternating hands. Start below the ribs, then make your way into the stomach.
b. Sun and Moon: One hand draws a CLOCKWISE full circle, and the other draws a partial circle, also clockwise.
c. Knees Up: This is not really massage, but I like to include it here because it is a great range of motion exercise, and will help with gas and constipation. Bring both knees together and gently push them into your baby’s tummy. Hold for 5 seconds. Gently bounce her legs after, encouraging them to relax. Repeat 5x.
d. Bicycle: Gently push the knees into the tummy, alternate legs. Then bounce them out straight to relax. Do 10x.
LOWER EXTREMITY:
a. Foot Massage: Stroke from the heel to toe with your thumbs, one right after another. 5x/foot.
b. Top of Foot: Stroke the top of the foot to the ankle. 5x/foot.
c. Toes: Squeeze each toe. Great time to say the “This Little Piggy” Rhyme. For those of you who need a refresher… “This little piggy went to market. This little piggy stayed home. This little piggy had roast beef. This little piggy had none. And this little piggy went wee wee wee, all the way home.”
d. Indian Milking: Support your baby’s foot with one hand, then stroke the leg with the other, from the buttock to ankle. Hold your hand in a “C” shape while stroking. Continue stroking, alternating hands. 10x/leg.
e. Swedish Milking: Same as Indian Milking, but go from ankle to hip. 10x/leg.
BACK:
a. Parting the Sea: Start at base of neck, with both of your hands at the center. Move your fingers out to the shoulders, making strokes perpendicular to the spine. Do this down the whole back, to the buttocks.
b. Raking: Make raking strokes with your fingers, from the shoulders to the buttocks. This is a nice one to end on.
Always end with a kiss.
Do not fret if it takes you a few trials before you and your baby gets used to this routine. The whole routine should not take you more than 10 minutes, once you get the hang of it.
Premature infants tend have difficulty tolerating massage to the arms. I tend to just massage the legs, face, and back for the little ones in the NICU.
Infant massage is great for grandparents to do too. My mom helped to take care of all of my babies when they were infants and massaged them every day. My babies, and my mom, loved it.
Parents sometimes ask me about books on massage that I would recommend. I like these two:

Special Note: Every single seminar I’ve been to, or book that I have read on infant massage, tells you to ask the baby for permission before you start. It sounds kind of strange, but now I feel wierd if I don’t ask for permission first. Your voice signals to them that your hands are coming next. Little preemies, and babies in general, get stressed out if you just touch them out of the blue. It’s best that they hear you first.